Published May 5, 2025

Contracts of Love & Money That Make or Break Relationships | James Sexton

James Sexton, a seasoned attorney, delves into the complexities of marriage and divorce, emphasizing the transformative role of prenuptial agreements in fostering open dialogue and strengthening relationships by aligning values and expectations.
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  • Prenup Benefits

    Prenuptial agreements are often misunderstood, but they can actually strengthen marriages by setting clear expectations and boundaries. shares that in his extensive experience, couples with prenups tend to have more successful marriages. He explains, "The kind of people who can have the conversations you need to have in order to have a prenuptial agreement, I think are the kind of people that are going to be successfully married, period" 1. This openness fosters a deeper connection, as both partners feel secure and valued in their roles 2.

       

    Misconceptions

    Common misconceptions about prenups often overshadow their emotional benefits. emphasizes that prenups are not just about financial protection but also about understanding each other's values and expectations 3. He notes, "Heartbreak is hard enough. Breaking up cohabitation with someone...sucks," highlighting the importance of having these conversations early on 4. By addressing potential issues upfront, couples can avoid misunderstandings and build a stronger foundation for their relationship 5.

       

    Legal Clarity

    The legal framework of prenups offers clarity and protection in relationships. explains that prenups can prevent difficult conversations in divorce court by addressing issues like infidelity and financial responsibilities beforehand 6. He argues that every marriage is governed by a contract, either one written by the government or by the couple themselves 7. "Do you want your relationship with this person governed by a contract you didn't write?" he asks, advocating for personalized agreements that reflect the couple's unique values 7.

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