what do you think about cheating?

Cheating is a complex breach of trust, and its motives can involve personal psychology as well as what is happening within a relationship. 1

1. Infidelity can take different forms: sexual infidelity, emotional infidelity—such as developing romantic feelings or sharing intimate information with someone else—and financial infidelity, such as hiding accounts or spending from a partner. 2

2. Motives may differ on average: Buss describes men’s infidelity as often driven by sexual variety, sometimes regardless of whether they are happy in their marriage; women’s affairs are more often associated with emotional or sexual unhappiness in the primary relationship. These are averages, not rules for individuals. 3

3. Evolutionary explanations are hypotheses, not a single settled account: one proposed strategy involves seeking resources from one partner and “good genes” from another; Buss says he came to favor mate switching as a more likely explanation for many women’s affairs, including leaving or seeking a more compatible partner. 4

4. Online pornography may offer novelty without acting on it: Buss frames it as a way some men can experience sexual variety psychologically. Huberman also raises the concern that heavy exposure among young people may orient them toward observing sexual activity rather than engaging in relationships. 5